Sexual Assault

6 Painful and Unseen Side Effects of Being Sexually Assaulted

You may have heard about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and are somewhat familiar with the debilitating symptoms like flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and nightmares. Sexual assault is a form of trauma that can lead to the development of PTSD. Sexual assault can also impact you in other complicated ways. I want to share with…

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A Sarcastic Survival Guide: 5 Tips for Avoiding Sexual Assault

Please follow these tips if you want to avoid being blamed if someone sexually assaults you. 1. Don’t use dating apps like Tinder, Grindr, Hinge, etc. to meet people. If you want to go on dates or meet new people, you must bring your parental figure or private security guard along with you to safe…

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A Trauma Therapist’s Perspective: Understanding the Thoughts of Sexual Predators of Children and How this Influences the Child’s View of Themselves

Content Warning: This post references childhood sexual abuse and may be triggering to those who have experienced sexual trauma. Childhood sexual abuse survivors share some common themes in emotions and thoughts: shame (there must be something really wrong with me), guilt (some of my behavior probably led to me being targeted), and confusion (what really…

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7 Tips for Friends and Lovers of Sexual Assault Survivors

Some people when they hear your story, contract. Others upon hearing your story, expand. And this is how you know. -Nayyirah Waheed A client of mine recently relayed a devastating story. After much pushing from her boyfriend to tell him more about her she told him about an experience of sexual assault. And then he…

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33 Ways to Prevent Sexual Assault

A guide for potential victims Trigger warning: This post contains extreme sarcasm. My intent is not to make light of sexual assault but rather to call out the myriad of ways our society blames victims. 1. Dress conservatively. 2. Always be on the lookout wherever you go for potential perpetrators. Scan a room and make…

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What Makes Sexual Assault so Hard to Label?

Please note: this article contains frank language about sexual assault which may be triggering to some readers. In my therapy office one of the most common questions I get asked directly or subtly is if I consider a client’s experience of sexual assault as sexual assault. The bolder clients will ask directly though usually with…

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