Posts by Rachel Stanton

9 Things Your Trauma Therapist Wants You to Know

It’s possible to heal. There may always be a scar but there isn’t always a pain. If you’re experiencing it, then other people do too. You are not alone. Shame often develops after trauma. It is an emotion – the feeling or sense of being “bad”. Shame can feel intense but that doesn’t make it…

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A Trauma Therapist’s Perspective: Understanding the Thoughts of Sexual Predators of Children and How this Influences the Child’s View of Themselves

Content Warning: This post references childhood sexual abuse and may be triggering to those who have experienced sexual trauma. Childhood sexual abuse survivors share some common themes in emotions and thoughts: shame (there must be something really wrong with me), guilt (some of my behavior probably led to me being targeted), and confusion (what really…

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7 Myths About Trauma

Whether you’ve experienced a recent sexual assault, childhood sexual abuse, or witnessed something scary, you might learn to believe some common misconceptions about trauma. Research on how the brain and body interact with our environment is relatively new and many of our individual & societal beliefs haven’t quite caught up with what we have learned…

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Below the Words: Working with the Body in Trauma Therapy

My colleague, Jackson Ravenscroft, does such an amazing job explaining why we work with the body in trauma processing. I am excited to share their most recent article here on why “just talking about it” doesn’t work when it comes to healing from trauma. Jackson is a psychotherapist in Boston, MA specializing in the treatment…

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5 things to help how you feel after a sexual assault

If you are struggling after a sexual assault with who this new “you” is, feeling worried you’re now damaged or dirty, or that you’ll never feel better, you are NOT alone! Here are some tips to help you feel better about who you (still) are and to get you going on the path towards healing.…

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Life in These Times

In a time when I have been speechless, my colleague, Erin Ramsey-Tooher, puts words to what I want to say. This is a trauma we are living through, it will and does impact us, and we will all have the capacity to heal when this is over. And it will end. I am grateful to…

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Anna

Everyone’s process through realizing trauma and the impact of trauma is so individualized and yet there are many common threads. I am grateful to add to my blog the writing of a dear friend, Anna, a survivor of childhood abuse and rape. Anna shares with us here her journey from dissociation (our innate, wonderful ability…

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Your Trauma Responses: Friends, Foes, or Both?

A colleague of mine, Erin Ramsey-Tooher, has written this wonderful piece for my blog exploring the nature of trauma responses. Erin has practiced interventions for helping people through the aftermath of trauma for years and has done such an amazing job here summarizing symptoms many survivors experience. Trauma lives in all of us differently so…

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7 Tips for Friends and Lovers of Sexual Assault Survivors

Some people when they hear your story, contract. Others upon hearing your story, expand. And this is how you know. -Nayyirah Waheed A client of mine recently relayed a devastating story. After much pushing from her boyfriend to tell him more about her she told him about an experience of sexual assault. And then he…

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